Spent a large portion of last night trying to help a friend, so am quite tired at the moment.
My friend is quite literally stressing herself sick over a relationship that may or may not exist. Smart thing to do would be call the other person (face to face would be better, but time zone and location are factors here) and ask them what is going on, get the answer you need and move one way or the other.
Being that this is a matter of the heart, the smart thing is probably not going to come into play. Fear of rejection keeps the call from happening, but then anxiety about what is happening eats away at her. Not the best of situations.
To my point of view she has three options:
1. Make the call, have the talk and move on.
2. Say enough is enough, put a stop to it and move on.
3. Stay where you are and keep beating yourself up with worry.
It weighs on me to see a friend going through this sort of thing. Not too much of a way to help, save listening and offering advise when they ask (only when they ask, very important that). The only way things are going to improve is to move forward, one way or the other. Good or bad you can not keep chasing the ghost.
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This is a tough one. There isn't an easy answer or direction to take.
Easy answers and directions usually are not the right ones anyway. She will continue to go on this way until she gets tired of feeling the hurt. No one can make it change except her.
Chasing a ghost ... sometimes people need to chase ghosts in order to fully understand and accept the inevitablility of things. When we're not ready to let go, as much as commonsense tells us we should, we can't until we have 'stressed ourselves sick' -
Whilst I understand that you care about your friend, and don't want to see them go through this, give them time and they will get the closure one way or another.
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